For those interested in learning more about adoption and adoption support services, here is a list of recommended media resources that explore families, their challenges, their triumphs, and the miracle of adoption.
To Each His Own [VHS] – A movie with Oliva de Havilland – an older movie taking place in 1946,; although adoption is different now, still a story about unconditional love.
My Forever Family – Songs About Adopting and Being Adopted by Lisa Silver and Wendy Spira – All of the songs on this CD are adoption related. A delightful, peppy collection that your children will enjoy listening to again and again. Our two top picks: “We All Come in Different Shapes and Sizes,” and “Forever Family”
Peek-A-Boo – Songs for Young Children – While not created specifically for adopted/foster families, this CD includes one of our all-time favorite childrens songs: “My Mommy Comes Back”…”She always comes back to get me..” A message that deeply resonates with adopted children.
Heartlight Ministries Seminar Series: Dealing with Today’s Teens by Mark Gregston – This valuable 8-week seminar series is designed by Mark Gregston of Heartlight Ministries, a Christian residential boarding school for teens. Gregston weaves adoption issues throughout the series and shares his perspective and proven strategies to prevent teen’s self-destructive behaviors and maintain open, loving and honest relationships.
Parents are encouraged to gather in small groups to discuss the concepts. Each lesson helps parents understand their teen with more compassion and also provides practical action-plans to incorporate into the unique family.
Gregston repeats his philosophy around building security for your teen with this definition: “Security means your teen knows that they don’t need to perform in order to experience your unconditional love. Your relationship with them won’t stop if they don’t respond, or if they mess up. And, that your love survives during the tough times.”
One of our adoption coaches has implemented a favorite quote from this program into her own family as well as with clients. It is a key ingredient to creating success with families: “There is nothing you can do to make me love you more, and there is nothing you can do to make me love you less.”