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Creating Holiday Joy

Wednesday, December 6, 2017 @ 08:12 PM

Creating Holiday Joy Imagine strolling alone through a park, savoring the brisk winter air and enjoying a much-needed respite from work and family responsibilities. Overhead a picture-perfect sky arcs. You release a deep sigh and then … behind you a branch snaps. Your reverie breaks and reality crashes back on to the forefront of your consciousness.

Daily life overflows with this kind of distraction which draws our attention away from our intended destination, mission or, goal. At this time of year, many of us feel both the joy and the burden of the holiday season. It weighs on our minds and hearts. We get caught up in the cultural effort to create a “Hallmark” holiday.

As we explored in last week’s blog, the real meaning of Christmas, Hannukah, Kwanzaa, etc cannot be found in a box or gift shop. It lies in the steadiness of connection, the joy of shared laughter, the balm of troubles divided. We all know this in our heart yet, we still find ourselves pulled in other directions striving to fill cultural expectations. Imagine being able to interrupt this entrenched pattern of subordinating your Intentions. How might this refresh your family life?

To help you stay on track with your highest intentions, ponder these questions about the last week.

Use your answers to guide you to a richer fulfillment of your goals next week. Strive to approach this without judging or criticising yourself. For this week, the goal is simply to notice. Before we can change, eliminate or, tweak patterns, we have to first become aware of them.

  1. How did I connect with each member of my family?
  2. When did we share a laugh?
  3. How fully did I immerse in the moment and resist the urge to get back to “doing” stuff?
  4. When my kids needed help regulating themselves, what alerted me?
  5. When I needed a break, how did my body let me know? How did I respond?
  6. How and when did I ask for help?
  7. When the kids needed help, how did they ask for it?
  8. What was the highlight of the week?
  9. What presented the biggest challenge? How did I handle it?
  10. What do I want to create with my family during the upcoming week?

One Response to “Creating Holiday Joy”

  1. joannd says:

    In handling my biggest challenges, especially with all of the “hype” of the holidays,I first have to determine what I am believing and feeling about this time. Am I letting my patterns and way of being around the holidays interfere with a family member needs. The key for me is to see the holidays as just events that I have added meaning to,so that I can stay neutral and really stay in touch with what is important to a family member during this time of year.

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