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When Adoption Grief and Losses Are Ignored and Minimized
Pause for a moment to consider the emotional rollercoaster Marcie’s family has faced. Tally the relationship fractures, the grief and losses, the attempts to reconnect and heal. Imagine the courage it took to dare to open up to connection, to risk rejection after all of that broken trust damaged, intimacy, and rejection. What can her story teach us about adoption?
Blinders and Rose-colored Glasses
Our culture’s predominantly views adoption as totally benign. This assessment creates huge blind spots and yields little space for the complexities of adoption. It ignores the profound grief, significant losses, and life long challenges experienced by adoptees and birth families—especially birth mothers. Rose-colored glasses create a distorted sense of adoption reality. For example,…
Love Is a Gift
Love takes only four letters to spell. Yet... Love is far more than just a simple word. As a lived reality, however,...
On Belonging and Parental Loss in the Adoption Constellation
Having four parents in their lives means adoptees have more people to cheer them on, to love them and to support them. The flip side of that is that one day, adoptees must grieve the death of each of their four parents. Each loss reverberates to awaken echoes of other losses. How can they receive the support they need?
The Gift of Less
Often, the effort to find the “perfect” gift generates stress, anxiety, and worry. We can’t predict or ensure a positive impact. Why is that? Well, in addition to the normal dynamics at play, the silent yet potent influence of the seven core issues in adoption press inexorably.
Is Adoption Beneficial?
Is adoption beneficial? How will we, how can we answer that question? While we might surmise how adoptees feel about adoption, our best guesses cannot begin to describe their experiences. We need them to use their voices and share their insights. For too long, adoptive parents and adoption professional have spoken on behalf of adoptees. They’ve told adoptees how they should feel, what they should think, and what they ought to say about adoption.
Supporting Adoptees at School
How can parents help teachers to know and understand the needs of adopted children? What should parents share and what should they keep private? How can parents and teachers be proactive about triggers and traumaversaries?
Insights on Open Adoptions
An open adoption reflects a blend of both physical interaction and a mindset in spirit and in fact. Adoptive parents demonstrate an openness mindset when they hold an emotional and psychological attitude that welcomes the presence of birth/first parents and extended family.
Are We There Yet?
t is wise for adoptive families to have a heightened sense of awareness of ways they can support one another not only in getting there but also enjoying the journey as well as the destination. It can be useful to keep in mind several factors.
A Father’s Presence Matters
Father as an Identity, an Experience, A Privilege Next week is Father’s Day. For anyone connected to adoption, this...
