If Your 2022 Parenting Dream Comes True, Are You Ready?

  Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listening time: 4:01 It's January. Perhaps you are considering a word or theme to use as inspiration for the year. But, instead of focusing on a catchy phrase, compelling image, or a list of resolutions, consider this question: […]

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Peace, Goodwill and Light to All
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Without You the Picture is Incomplete.

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listening time: 6:44 As we focus on being intentional this holiday season, let's remember that the greatest gift we can give our loved ones is our undivided, attentive presence. Kids delight in being seen by us. (Recall how often […]

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Holiday Celebrations that Build Connection

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listen time 12:14 Given that the name of our coaching firm is Growing Intentional Families Together, we obviously believe in the value of intentionality. We define our particular "flavor" of intentionality as "Adoption Attunement. "We know parenting with intention […]

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Adoption Awareness: How Accurate Is Your Knowledge?

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listen time 4:55 Listen also to this blog about building enduring connections as a family. Every November our country observes National Adoption Awareness Month (NAAM) to raise awareness of the children in foster care who are awaiting adoption because […]

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Monitoring Your Family Heart Beat

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listen time 5:42 I’m in the midst of a 30-day session wearing a heart monitor. It is minimally uncomfortable yet singularly dedicated to its purpose. Always operating. Never off duty. Never distracted. It periodically zings an alert or vibrates […]

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Are You Building an Enduring Connection with Your Children?

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listening Time: 8:28   While waiting to become a parent, I spent some time ruminating on the way my own parents raised me. After I became a parent the challenges of parenting became real. I developed some empathy for […]

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I Wasn’t Expecting That

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listening time: 7:49 If you are an adopted parent, you have probably experienced many encounters with the unexpected. For most of us, the first “surprise” was infertility. We expected we would become pregnant fairly easily. But that is not […]

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Being Cassandra: Sharing an Unwelcome Truth

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listening time: 3:28 Being Cassandra: Sharing an Unwelcome Truth August 20, 2021 I have been an adoptive parent for 35 years. I have learned a great deal in these intervening years. One of my biggest shifts has been embracing […]

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Beginnings and Endings as Adoptive Families

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listening time: 6:44 In the beginning, we dream of pregnancy and then discover it is unachievable. That dream ends. Still, we continue to dream and choose to focus on our core desire: parenthood. This leads us to consider adoption. […]

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Celebrate with Adoption Attunement in Mind

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listen time 5:23 This month we celebrate the “birthday” and independence of the United States. Many folks observe the Fourth of July as an extended family. Holidays become enmeshed with warm memories of the important people in our family, […]

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The Blessings of Fatherhood

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listen time 6:04 Father’s Day dominates our thoughts this month. Big Holidays like this are freighted with extra emotional baggage in the world of adoption. The importance of fathers tends to be underappreciated and be overshadowed by the intense […]

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On Mothering...

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listen time 6:04 The month of May, rich with burgeoning life after winter’s severity, brings motherhood to mind . The observance of an official holiday further nudges our awareness!  So, a question comes to mind: What does it mean […]

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Finding Joy: Life as a Learning Conversation

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listen time 5:32 Babies are the most determined learners. Their survival depends on their ability to learn. Even in the face of persistent failure, they pick themselves up and try again and again until they achieve mastery. Whether it […]

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Rainbows, Relationships and Unknown Relatives

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listening time: 5:31   After a long winter of confinement and challenging weather, most folks are glad to add a bit of festivity to their lives. I suspect this explains why so many people who aren’t actually Irish enjoy […]

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Yearning to Belong: the Quest to Feel at Home

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listening time: 5:49 Winter has arrived. Even here in South Florida temperatures have plummeted! Our instinct to hunker down drives us to turn to home for shelter, warmth, and safety. Home and family provide a reassuring sense of belonging. […]

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Voices Matter in Adoption: Loving enough to Listen and Learn

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listening time:  10:17   Lessons from 2020 The past year taught us we must learn to discuss hard things, listen to multiple voices with respect, and complete attention. We must strive to understand all sides of the conversation. Adoption […]

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GIFT Giving 2020: What Do Adoption Attuned Parents Choose?

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listening time:  6:21 November features National Adoption Awareness Month (#NAAM). One thing 2020 has taught us: truly valuable things in life have no price tag. The things that genuinely matter are priceless: family, friends, health, companionship, security. As we […]

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Gratitude, Adoption, Connection, and Community!

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listening time:  4:07 November features National Adoption Awareness Month (#NAAM). This has gained enthusiastic support from adoptive parents who wish to declare the benefits of adoption. Adoption provided them children to love and parent and they eagerly share their […]

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The Indispensability of Community

Feeling short of time or finding it difficult to concentrate? You can listen to this post. Listen time 7:39 At the risk of sounding like Captain Obvious: our lives have been totally blown off their normal courses. Covid-19 realigned our lives, redefined our social interactions, upended our educational systems, shuttered businesses, destroyed jobs, sickened millions, […]

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