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Limited Family Resources: Time, Money, and Attention

by | Nov 28, 2018 | Blogs by Gayle Swift, General Discussion


Although Thanksgiving has passed, we are especially grateful for our good fortune as we note that great numbers of folks who have experienced traumatic hardships this year. Many have lost their homes due to the ravages of nature. Fire, floods, and hurricanes remind us how quickly our “stuff” can disappear leaving behind only memories, relationships and our courage to pick up the pieces and go on.

Once again life reminds us that the truly important things have no price tag. Their value is not measured in dollars in cents but in sentiment, caring and commitment. As Intentional Parents, we expend immense energy, effort, and thought on how to build and sustain relationship connections and attachments that can weather any challenge life throws at us. We seek to raise children who are resilient, kind and capable who know in their bones that true worth is not measured in dollars and sense. Our commitment to Intentional Parenting reminds us that the way we spend our time, money, and attention is a clear indication of how we prioritize and embody our family values.

limited-family-resources-time-money-and-attentionAs our neighborhoods come alive with the sparkling decorations of holiday lights we are reminded of how welcome light is whenever we darkness surrounds us—literally or figuratively. Let us challenge ourselves and our children to be sources of light, connectivity, kindness, and generosity.

Avoid the pitfall and stress of overspending when selecting Christmas gifts. [ctt template=”7″ link=”a76qd” via=”yes” ]Resolve to spend less on stuff and choose gifts that create ways to spend time together as a family. [/ctt]We know that kids yearn for and need our loving, focused attention. Attention is the gold of family currency.

Help children to develop a reasonable awareness of your family’s specific financial limitations. As always, our behavior sets a model for our children that will become their template throughout their lives. [ctt template=”7″ link=”6qCrg” via=”yes” ]Consider what a blessing it is to inculcate financial self-discipline as a family value. It’s a gift that lasts a lifetime. #FinancialSelfDiscipline #LifetimeGift #FamilyValues[/ctt]

limited-family-resources-time-money-and-attentionMake it a priority to participate as a family in at least one activity that helps others. Your group effort will bless both your family and the recipients. This too, is a way we can reinforce family values and bring them to life so they are more than mere words.

As we think back through our childhood holiday memories, most of us cherish the emotions we felt more than the specific gifts we received. Let us strive to create a month that our children will recall through the decades ahead with a full heart and a broad smile. Our time, attention, and affection are the real treasures they need.