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Birthdays: A TriSpective Timeline
A TriSpective lens reveals multiple, coexisting realities experienced in an adoption. Considering a TriSpective timeline starting with the child’s first birthday. The child’s and their parents’ understanding of and feelings about the birthday will increase in complexity. Life will alter how they feel about this special day. Read more…
June, Fathers, NPE, and Its Aftermath
What happens when you learn that Daddy is not your father? (Or Mommy is not your mother? What are the emotional, physical, relational, psychological and Identity impacts? How can repair be built? Read more…
What the TriSpective Approach Taught Me About My Own Reunion
The TriSpective framework…doesn’t ask anyone to pick a side or rank whose pain matters most. It just asks: what if we looked at all three perspectives at once, as parts of the same interconnected story?…Maybe that’s the real value of TriSpective thinking: it doesn’t resolve the complexity. It just makes room for all of it, at the same time, without anyone needing to be wrong.
On Grief, Boundaries, Intimacy, and Adoption
All constellation members experience adoption-connected grief. It’s also beneficial to understand that we experience this grief as individuals AND as an interconnected unit. What impacts one of us, affects all of us. That’s the essence of Tri-Relational Interconnectivity!
The Unique Responsibilities of Adoptive Parenting
When adoption is necessary, we want to be engaged with eyes, hearts and minds wide open. Deal with the issues head on, with compassion and honesty. Recognize the unique needs of the triad. Commit to living with a TriSpective Approach. Love the children enough to deal with the realities and complexities. Adoptive parenting is unique and brings additional responsibilities.
Lived Experience Offers Insights for the Adoption Constellation
Adoption is not a solitary experience. It is a family experience that exists within a system—one which Jean challenged us to improve. She made several interesting points about what triad members need.
An Adoption Evolution: from the Dark Ages to an Adoption Attuned Approach
Can we assert that there has been an evolution in adoption from the Dark Ages to an Adoption Attuned Approach? What evidence can we offer? And what does an Adoption Attuned Approach actually entail?
Being an Open and Safe Space
If you could consistently build a safe, welcoming and open space, how might your relationships improve? What would you be willing to do to ensure your loved one experienced you as a source of comfort, security, acceptance, and safety?
Open Adoption Isn’t Easy AND It Was So Worth It!
Living open adoption for 30 years, Linda wrestled with the inherent complexities, saw how every person involved carried emotional burdens and coped with trauma, loss & grief. it wasn’t easy but she asserts, “For my children’s sake, it was so worth it!
Navigating the Holidays When Adoption Is Part of the Picture
It’s the time of year when decorative lights brighten our world and holiday music greets us everywhere. Adoption can…
