by Gayle Swift | Mar 29, 2017 | Blogs by Gayle Swift, General Discussion
Adoptive families frequently encounter rude, inappropriate, intrusive or, dismissive questions and comments. Most of us who struggle with infertility have heard a variation of the following: Now that you’ve adopted, you’ll conceive and have a child of your own. While...
by Gayle Swift | Mar 15, 2017 | Blogs by Gayle Swift, General Discussion
The Elephant in the Room: Fear of Rejection Let’s face it, in Adoption World fear of rejection is the elephant in the room. Adoptees fear being rejected by their adoptive parents. Adoptive parents fear being rejected by their children. Birth parents fear being hated...
by Gayle Swift | Mar 8, 2017 | Adoptive Parenting Skills/Tool, Blogs by Gayle Swift, General Discussion
For adoptive parents, the arrival of their children is a miracle beyond conception and an event which they love to celebrate. In a recent letter, Dear Abby extolled the virtues of “Gotcha Day” as a wonderful way to celebrate an important and life transforming event....
by GIFT Coach | Mar 1, 2017 | Blogs by Gayle Swift, General Discussion
Building families through adoption forges strong, loving bonds. It also realigns the life trajectories of entire families and fractures biological ties. Regardless of the degree of openness, adoption generates complicated tangles of atypical* relationships (* in the...
by GIFT Coach | Feb 15, 2017 | Blogs by Gayle Swift, General Discussion
Adoption matters; Talk about it! For far too many years adoption was buried under layers of secrecy. People considered it a sensitive subject. Off limits. Some parents kept adoptees in the dark. Families mentioned it only in whispers. Adoptees absorbed the subtle...
by GIFT Coach | Feb 8, 2017 | Adoption-attunement, Blogs by Gayle Swift, Family dynamics, General Discussion, Intentional Parenting
Last month we focused on accumulating information to underpin some intentional change-making. Today’s tips can help you implement change even if you didn’t participate in last month’s series. (It’s not too late to follow the exercise outlined...