by GIFT Coach | Sep 9, 2015 | Blogs by Gayle Swift, General Discussion
Anyone who will be involved in your post-adoption life must be a fully enrolled part of your team. (This does NOT mean they are entitled to the details of your childrens’ stories. It DOES mean that they must have a commitment of the heart that becomes their...
by GIFT Coach | Jun 3, 2015 | Blogs by Gayle Swift, General Discussion
During the last month or so, our family has celebrated several family milestones. My son turned thirty. My husband turned sixty-seven. We observed our forty-fourth (!) wedding anniversary. With great hoopla (and decked out in costumes,) we gathered for a baby shower...
by GIFT Coach | Apr 29, 2015 | Blogs by Gayle Swift, General Discussion
In last week’s blog we explored the Mirroring and Belonging level of the Relationship Pyramid and discussed how important it is for a child to learn an extensive Emotional Vocabulary. Having the ability to name and recognize various emotions in oneself allows a child...
by GIFT Coach | Mar 4, 2015 | Blogs by Guests, Difficult Discussions, Faith and Values, General Discussion, Post Adoption Challenges & Behaviors, Strengthening Family Relationships
Years ago, before I had ever heard the word “attunement” associated with adoptive parenting, a therapist told me, “Your son is telling you what he can handle by his behavior.” More than anything else, those words have impacted our family for the better. I have learned...
by GIFT Coach | Oct 30, 2014 | Blogs by Gayle Swift, General Discussion
To prepare for National Adoption Month, last week we discussed the importance of parenting with a “High AQ”–parenting with adoption attunement. To recap, we stipulated that love is the beginning of adoptive family success. We also asserted that love...