by GIFT Coach | Feb 2, 2017 | Blogs by Gayle Swift, Difficult Discussions, Faith and Values, General Discussion
Americans have a cultural belief: Money Talks. What is yours saying? How strong is the connection between our spending and our values? After tracking your spending for a week–or more–what useful information emerged? Dissect the information with a Learning...
by GIFT Coach | Oct 19, 2016 | Adoptive Parenting Skills/Tool, Difficult Discussions, General Discussion, Post Adoption Challenges & Behaviors
How do cultural misperceptions and adoption stereotypes affect our children, ourselves as parents, and our family dynamics? When movies or books paint adoptees as a “bad seed” or unwanted inconvenience, how does it impact us emotionally and shape our...
by GIFT Coach | Jun 15, 2016 | Adoption-attunement, Blogs by Gayle Swift, Blogs by Joann DiStefano, Difficult Discussions, General Discussion, Strengthening Family Relationships
We all strive to get along well. But, conflict, breaches and breakdown inevitably touch every relationship. This is especially true within families, the home of our most intimate relationships. Here we are most deeply invested, most passionately committed, most...
by GIFT Coach | Apr 13, 2016 | Adoptive Parenting Skills/Tool, Difficult Discussions, General Discussion
For most of us the carefully wrought, precarious balance of our family systems depends on everything operating as expected. But what happens when an event smashes that equilibrium? Last week I had a come-to-Jesus encounter with that kind of disruption. I have...
by GIFT Coach | Jan 27, 2016 | Adoptive Parenting Skills/Tool, Blogs by Gayle Swift, Difficult Discussions, General Discussion
Let’s face it, as adoptive families we frequently must field intrusive/offensive questions about our family, children and adoption. What Do I Say Now? by Carol Bick and M. C. Baker, illustrated by Sophie Meyer helps us address this issue. The book uses a...
by GIFT Coach | Jan 20, 2016 | Blogs by Gayle Swift, community, Difficult Discussions, General Discussion, International Adoption, Strengthening Family Relationships
Adoptees tell us that they frequently feel like they don’t quite fit in either their adoptive or birth families. This is not to say that they don’t feel attached, loved and welcomed. Rather it speaks to their challenge of living with the influences of...